One of the ways in which you can discern God's Will for you in a situation or with a person is to remove judgment of that situation or person. You must use discernment, not judgment.
Discernment makes an evaluation while seeing the God within that situation or person. It gives you an unemotional, non judgmental, compassion based view from which you can make a decision. When you judge, you judge from an ego or non God perspective.
How do you move into discernment versus judgment? You must first move into compassion. If you can't initially do that for the situation or person, do that for yourself. Have compassion on yourself as if you were in the other person's shoes, and then you will have compassion on them. It is also important to remember that you never have enough info, never have a large enough perspective, to judge a situation or another person's path.
That is why you must leave all decisions up to God, and compassion allows you to move into that God space where he can give you the answers.
These posts are similar to the over 2500 contained on The Divine Speaks website (www.thedivinespeaks.com) where God gives YOU the one that you need to hear at that time. Lawrence is the author of three books on emotional and spiritual healing, including "Thirteen Steps To Move From Victim Consciousness To God Consciousness: Healing Traumatic Experiences Including Sexual, Physical, Emotional, And Mental Abuse."