Randomness and the Ego

I have been communicating over email with someone who is trying to wrestle with the concept that he creates everything that happens in his world. He is the complete author of his dream, but he wants to find an exception for different things. "What about the guy who beats his wife down the street --- I can't be creating that." The ego mind looks for exceptions, because its very existence is based on seeing differences and judging them. I asked this person where do you draw the line? What if a husband yells at his wife for backing into the garage? Is that "bad" enough that you would think you can't be creating that? What if a husband just admonishes his wife in a nice way for spending too much money? You can't draw a line, because it is different for everyone, and it changes for each us, really moment by moment as our experiences change.

So when we talk about creating your own reality, we are talking about it being total or being nothing. You can't be partially pregnant. Either we are the complete authors of everything that we see, everything that happens to us, and everyone we encounter, or everything is completely random. And I would hate to live in a world that is completely random, because anything can happen to you. You don't know where the next disaster is waiting for you. That is how the ego mind lives. It lives in fear as it thinks that is separate from everything else and it is a kill or be killed scenario. This may get sugarcoated with the appearance of kindness sometimes, but what lies underneath is that fear. This is where all anger comes from. The good and bad news is that you are the complete creator of everything that happens to you. It is good, because you can create anything you want, just as Jesus did. The bad news is that you can no longer be a victim and place blame outside of yourself. You now have responsibility for what you create, whether that appears as "good" or "bad" circumstances in your life.