I Am Therefore I Am

Describing the path of our Love with God, a path of remembering our Oneness with Him.

Thursday, April 14, 2011

Anger

There has been some question or confusion as to some of the statements about anger on the Divine Speaks website and on this blog. Anger is an emotion, and like all of our emotions, it can be a great teacher if we let it. As I have stated before, God is Love, the noun. When Love becomes manifest in this dream, it becomes a verb. It is difficult to know God and His Love if we are closed down emotionally. Each of us needs to be able to express our emotions in a healthy manner. If we can step back and witness our reaction to things, often we are able to trace back where the reaction comes from. This is especially true about anger. We are rarely angry at what may appear to be the obvious surface event. If we witness our anger, we can observe, without judgment, and we may be blessed with a recognition that starts us on the path to healing. If you read my book, you will see how this is very true. I was a very angry person for a long time, and I would get mad over the smallest things, just like a child. And in fact I was reacting like a child, because emotionally I was frozen at a much earlier age. I had never been able to express the anger for the traumatic event that happened to me. When I finally traced my "sideways" anger back to that event and was able to express anger over it, I was healed and my sideways anger went away. The source had been removed. Bear this in mind when you deal with people who have a lot of anger, and especially bear this in mind if you are a person with a lot of anger. Understanding why you or someone else has so much anger, even if you don't know the specifics (and you may not know or remember what has caused you to be so angry), can generate great compassion instead of judgment. If you have a lot of anger and you can be compassionate and non judgmental with yourself, you have opened the door for God to heal you.

Anger is an important part of the path when you are both healing emotionally and growing spiritually. If you refuse to express your anger because you have some belief, known or unknown, that it is not spiritual to have anger, or sometimes in the case of women that it is not appropriate for you to be angry, then anger that is repressed will become depression. So anger is important, but this does not give us carte blanche to tell everyone to stick it. You come to a point in your path with God when you realize that the last thing you want to do is hurt someone else's feelings. Cause and effect do not appear to us to be instantaneous, but they are, as this was how Jesus performed miracles. So we do not see the effects of our actions and thoughts and how instantaneously this creates a ripple effect to everyone around us and especially the person we are getting angry with. If we could see how powerful and strong our words and thoughts are, there would be much less anger and hurting of feelings. Additionally, if we could see from a perspective of the One, then we would realize that our harmful thoughts and words are only hurting ourself.

If you are growing in your remembrance back toward God, there will be times that you get angry with Him. You are working through and releasing false beliefs about your relationship with Him and your ego does not give up its influence easily. Many people do not think they can get angry with God because they fear Him and His punishment if they get angry. But God is Love. He loves you regardless of what you do, what you are, what you think, etc. He is not a human parent who has conditions on his love. Unconditional means there are no conditions to earn His Love. It is there, no matter what happens, eternally.

So how do we balance the fact that we need to be able to express our anger with the fact that we don't want to hurt feelings. Well, certainly with God you do not have to worry about hurting His feelings. You can let it go full blast --- He wants this as there is less of the false you there to block His Love. But in regard to anger at other people, it is a balancing act. If you can catch yourself becoming angry, ask yourself whether it is more important to blast the other person, hurting their feelings, or is it more important for you to express your anger in a less hurtful way. You can find out a lot about yourself and how far you have come by the internal response you get. As we do in many instances, we look to Jesus as an example. Jesus became angry at the moneychangers in the temple. But I strongly believe that his anger came from Love. His words and tone were such that in this instance, he taught the truth through anger, but it was done in a completely non hurtful manner. Because he knew himself as one with All that is, he would have never hurt others as he would have only been hurting himself. Anger happened to be the best vehicle for making these people understand what they were doing. The Love he had for these people (because he was nothing but Love, having recognized himself as one with God) was expressed through anger. In most other times he expressed Love through "love". Love can be expressed by being sad, being kind, being angry, etc. Love does not look a certain way. It has many appearances in this world, but they are all Love, as there can be nothing else.

 

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