When you love someone or something, you open the door for that Love to be returned to you. The key is that you have to love first --- be who you are. You can't wait on Love coming to you first, because in doing that you are putting conditions on Love, and Love is unconditional. We can love a person, an animal, a project, the Earth, etc. At a spiritual level all of these have a consciousness of Love that can be connected with, as it is all God. Even if you are dealing with a person who is outwardly hostile to you, if you seee past appearances and love the Christ in them, you will feel the love back from them at the spiritual level. When you operate in this realm, what they are saying or doing with their words or actions, even if it is hostile, becomes irrelevant.