Being blamed is a great impetus for change, especially if it is someone close to you. You may have blamed that person many times, and when they blame you, you don't like it. In fact, you don't like it to the extent that you are willing to do anything to find a better way. You are even willing to withdraw from blaming this other person, even if they continue blaming you. Because it takes only one to break down an illusory relationship, if one unilaterally withdraws, it shifts everything. It reduces the blame from the other person, and it shifts your outlook so that you don't even see it as blame anymore. This is how you bring God into your relationships and make them real, make them authentic, make them based on honesty and respect.