When you are hurt by a loved one, I can tell you that it is a gift for you to better see who you are, and this is the case. But this is really hard to hear when you are in the pain. Allow yourself to feel the pain, but in order to come out of it, you must move to a higher perspective. In the end, all that matters and what should drive you is your peace and joy. And if you stay in the resentment, bitterness, and anger, not giving them to Him and allowing yourself to heal, you will not have that peace and joy. Remember, it is not about punishing the other person. It is about what is best for you, and what is best for you is also what is best for the other person, because we are One. When you release the negative emotions, you free up yourself and that other person. Maybe you don't want to free up that other person, but you will never have His peace and joy if you don't.