Everyone feels sorry for themselves at different points in time, but the question is whether this self pity is turned into victimhood.
Self pity and being a victim are a "me" mentality. The focus for that person becomes themselves, as if they are the center of the universe. This is an ego perspective. A person who acts like a victim believes they have power, and they are "happy" because the attention is on them.
If you take self pity and turn it around, it becomes compassion for yourself and others. This is a God perspective. Compassion, as a part of Love, takes the focus from an individual to the whole. This creates true joy, not "happiness". It also creates true power that comes from the whole as opposed to false power that the ego thinks it has.
These posts are similar to the over 2300 contained on The Divine Speaks website (www.thedivinespeaks.com) where God gives YOU the one that you need to hear at that time. Lawrence is the author of three books on emotional and spiritual healing, including "Thirteen Steps To Move From Victim Consciousness To God Consciousness: Healing Traumatic Experiences Including Sexual, Physical, Emotional, And Mental Abuse."